Bullying

            Bullying? We are as human who become the parents of our children must know about bullying, what is bullying, why some people do bullying, what the impact of bullying, until how to protect our children from bullying. Because sometimes the parents have low awareness to know that their children has become the target or victim of bullying on their school or surrounding, until they saw the bad impact of bullying of their children.

            (Konselorsekolah.com) said that, the doer of bullying is the person who feel suppressed, insulted, threatened, hurt, revenge, etc. So the doer of bullying is the victims of bullying which do by the other person to them. So that, this behavior can be called as a cycle, so the big possibility the doer is the victims from the doer of bullying before.

            Bullying is Intimidation and push act to weaker individual or group to do something beyond of their ability, and the doer do the bullying on purpose to make the physical of that person on dangerous. We can see the common bullying is often happened in school like oppression or verbal abuse which can be on mockery, teasing, or mock at name addressing and make the person who get the name is un-convenience, slander, rude word, rude critics and many. From verbal abuse the doer can continue to terror of physical like kick, hit, rape the target or sexual harassment.

            The doer who do the bullying start from young age, with do the terror on boys or girls emotionally. The doer disturb on many reasons, usually because they attract the attention from their friends or parents, and can be also they feel they have power to control their friends. But much people do the bullying because their imitated the adult or television programs. That’s why, the parents must be control what their children consume from television program. But actually the person can be a doer of bullying are have many factors.

            The first factors is family. the doer of bullying sometimes from the family which have many problems. The parents who always punish the children exaggerating, the house is full of stress. The children will learn the bullying behavior when they observe and then imitate to their friends. And so often happen violence behavior which do by the parent and the children didn’t brave to resist, so the resistance will be showed to their friends.

            The second is school. When the school party underestimate the bullying, especially verbal abuse  and relational , the doer of bullying will be felt they get more power to more do the intimidation for more people. Bullying will be developed in school environment easily when in that school has discriminative behavior, lake of control and ethic guidance, big social discrepancy of rich people and poor people, or the weak of discipline in school.

            The third is the group of the same age. When the children start interacting with their friends in school or at home, sometime they are have a will to push to prove that they can joint in certain group, and get respect from friends, or to show that she/he have a power, the bravest, and the most important thing the she/he can hold the power on the group.

            The forth is environment. The environment around the house is the biggest impact of bullying behavior. Example, when a kid alive in the environment which always fighting or always have enemies, or the behavior is not like a norm,  so the kid will be easily to imitate the behavior and he will not fell guilty or he will consider its common things and isn’t break the norm.

            But if  we realize, bullying in school not only do by the students who feel have power or wanna attract the attention from many people, but the bullying can be done by teachers. Bullying is done by the teacher usually is unrealized, when the teacher angry, mock at, say something but with loud voice or rude word. Actually the purpose is to make the students discipline, but when the student become afraid and suppressed, that’s why this act can be called as bullying category, even the purpose is well.

            The point is, when the teacher do something hard or rude to threaten, make the students shame on, afraid, or make the student suffer hard emotional depressed, so the acts can we categorized as bullying. But the bullying by teacher is happened in consciously oftentimes on purpose to have control or power of students.

            We can see the symptoms, the sample is start from the students will get bad score if they aren’t joint in course or not buy the book from the teacher in related. If this case happened in one school, it will be last long because the students are threaten about their score if they brave to inform. And this is not only about score, but the teacher action who press and “students motivation on getting achievement.

            That’s why, bullying is must be control seriously, because bullying victims on the position is almost impossible to resist. Bullying in school to students isn’t only responsibility of school because it can be happened out of school, like when they go or went home, the doer can do their action and more dangerous because there`s no adult or people watch it.

            (Konselorsekolah.com) said, In school is not easy to erase their problem in the name of bullying, because puberty factors in teenagers, identity crisis, a group of people, family factors, social and etc. so the effort they can do is just minimize of bullying. The school must be have the way for bullying case, because suspension is not effective to stop the case, because the children still do in another place.

            Suspension or drop out from school actually its just one of solution to bullying case in school. Even simple, but its not the best solution , because the source of violence is the culture of the violence. When they still see and feel the violence or anything rude act, in home, school, they never learn how about peace, tolerance, help each others, appreciate each others, and social camaraderie.

            So the parent must be really control their children, are they become the victims or the doer. Both of that is not good, each others have the bad impact for the children. Dor the victims They will afraid to out from home or go school, or become the criminal doer when they start adult for the doer of bullying.